Statistics on length of dating before engagement
Read: How an Insensitive Jerk Saved my Marriage One of the reasons cohabitation was linked with divorce in prior years was that poorer people tended to move in together and then slide into marriage when they got pregnant. So it might not have been the cohabitation, but the poverty that was causing the split. The situation today has changed—70% of all women aged 30 to 34 have lived with a boyfriend, according to Kuperberg, and many of them are educated and wealthy.
Sharon Sassler, a professor at Cornell who’s writing a book on cohabitation, says that the amount of time a couple dates before moving in together is important.
Read: How Being Good Parents Can Make You a Lousy Couple What other factors predict a successful cohabitation-to-marriage journey?
Coincidentally, in another paper released the same day, researchers at the University of Miami in Coral Gables found that there might be physical traits at work.
“Asserting cohabitation is basically asserting that one is not ‘locked in’ to a commitment,” he says, whereas marriage sends a signal of dependability and predictability.
“Given that premarital sex has been nearly universal in the U. for more than 40 years,” she wrote in a response to Kuperberg’s study, “it is vital to provide teens and young adults with access to effective contraceptives and family planning services” to avert more divorces.Among couples who were just cohabiting, the brain scans didn’t show much difference.Even gay couples who were not legally married but were in the emotional equivalent— exclusive committed permanent relationships—handled the stressful incident better.(Exhibit A: George Clooney.) Why get married at all?Why not just live together as long as it suits both parties?